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Setbacks

The past few days have been a little rougher for us. Both Bill and I are beginning to feel the strain of doing this routine over and over.  It’s not like we haven’t been enormously blessed and have had such a smooth experience thus far, but we are entering a lull and need to get over this hump for the sake of our sanity.  We’ve heard from other families how they have been here for 4 months, home for 4 days, and then right back in the hospital.  I cannot imagine what it must be like for those long-term families when we’ve only been here for 2 weeks.  We just can’t wait to walk into the next room to pick up our boy free from wires and tubes instead of driving 20 minutes for tethered snuggling sessions.  Thanks for all the words of encouragement – they really help to lift our spirits.

Evan has been moved to “moderate care” and it is actually quite comfortable and less crowded in there.  He is struggling with eating, which he never really did before.  We think the vent tubes scratched up his mouth and throat and has just made swallowing painful for him.  When bottle feeding, he often makes these horrific gagging faces and looks like he is in pain.  We’ve asked for some pain meds but it will just take time for the tenderness to go away.  In the meantime, he is being tube fed and has been tolerating that well, but he is throwing up more and never did that before.  His food is supplemented to make sure he is getting enough calories.  His metabolism is faster because his heart has to work harder so he needs the extra calories to make sure he gains weight.  Please pray he can take his bottles so we can get rid of his NG tube.

Evan is still in complete heart block.  On his own, his ventricles do not get the signal from his atrium and therefore do not beat fast enough. His heartrate should be 140-160 beats/min.  Currently, on his own his ventricles pace at 58 beats/min yesterday and 72 beats/min today.  That isn’t going to work.  The doctors will not let him leave the hospital with complete heart block without getting a pacemaker first.  They like to give kids 10-14 days after surgery to give time for swelling and edema to go down.  The docs will make their decision Friday or Monday and schedule it for next week.  It will probably give us an additional 5ish days in the hospital. 
Dr. Hirsch stopped by today to talk to us about it and she actually said that he had his own beat in the OR and it wasn’t until bringing him to the ICU that he developed heart block.  So there is hope it can come back.  Please pray for this.

Evan continues to poop like a champ but now he has diaper rash.  Poor buddy!  We now slather a super thick cream on his buns so
hopefully it will go away soon.  And daddy fell victim to the first pee spray yesterday.  Frankly I’m surprised it has taken this long.

Maybe it is just me because I am new to this or maybe it is a change that happens between 1 and 2 weeks old, but lately when looking at Evan his eyes cross pretty frequently.  Maybe his vision is improving and he is trying to focus??  Fellow parents, is this normal?

 

Comments

11 responses to “Setbacks”

  1. Kate Avatar
    Kate

    LOVE YOU GUYS!!!

  2. Jenny Avatar

    Have they started him on reflux meds? It’s VERY common for these babies to develop reflux after heart surgery. Our cardiologist told us it has something to do with the heart pushing against the esophogus more.. I don’t remember the details, but maybe that’s why eating isn’t going as well? It totally makes sense that his throat might be a little sore too. Hang in there you guys- it’s a hard road- this will hopefully be the hardest part- so everything from here on in will get better. I look back at the month after Aly was born as the hardest out of the whole two years we’ve had so far. You guys are doing great and are fantastic parents!

  3. Papa D Avatar
    Papa D

    Cross eyed is totally normal, Caleb still does it from time to time but it will improve as he gets older…….at least it has for Caleb, Miriam and I just laugh at him when he does this…..

  4. Papa D Avatar
    Papa D

    He’s adorable, our thoughts are with you guys….

  5. Nicole Horvath Avatar
    Nicole Horvath

    yes, I have seen babies do the faux cross eyed thing when they are trying to focus and I’m sure pain meds may not be helping any in that arena.

    I will pray for his heart block to be cured and for you guys to be refreshed & renewed during the difficult time of back and forth.

  6. Jenn Elenbaas Avatar
    Jenn Elenbaas

    He is just adorable, you guys! The pictures are so sweet, yet heartbreaking at the same time. So sorry he’s having such a rough time right now. It’s not something I do often, but I will continue to pray for Evan and for your family. The love you have for your little boy is palpable. He’s lucky to have you two. Hang in there.

  7. Amy Avatar
    Amy

    Praying for you all……….

  8. Robin Avatar
    Robin

    It’s so amazing to me how Evan has recovered so well from such a major surgery…he’s such a trooper. And he’s such a little cutie! I can’t imagine what you guys are going through, but stay strong and try to look at the positives….and enjoy your nights of sleep cuz once the little guy comes home those will be gone for awhile 🙂

  9. Alica Avatar
    Alica

    I can’t imagine being able to handle the stress the three of you are going through. You and Bill are inspirational in the courage and strength that you have for Evan. We are all praying for the three of you and that Evan will continue to get better and stronger. Love you guys!

  10. Grandma Nancee Avatar
    Grandma Nancee

    The pictures of all of you are enough to make me cry. My Grandson is so beautiful and I miss him. I love you all very much.xx00

  11. Audrey Aamodt Avatar
    Audrey Aamodt

    Jim and I are praying for all 3 of you. We love the pictures and the updates, bittersweet as they are, the three of you are showing such courage and a strong will to fight, Amen to that love you all Jim and audrey

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