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  • Lots of Pictures Part 1

    So here comes a series of monster posts.  Hope you like lots of pics with little content because there’s about 5 months worth of updating to do… yikes

     

    June 29 – A get together with some colleagues from work from my old unit.  We all had babies close to each other too so there were 5 little ones there too.  We brought the bounce house to see if kids would like it and it was a hit!

     

    July 4 – Watching the parade in downtown Richland and then going to Nana and Papa’s to watch fireworks in Portage

     

    July 13 – Evan had lots of fun in his swimming pool.  Then Evan and dada went to the 1st birthday party of Evan’s girlfriends – twins Emma and Megan

     

    July 16 – This was the day Papa took Nana to the hospital.  We don’t live very far away so we had Xander stay with us so Papa could be with Nana by himself.

     

    July 22 – Our friends and neighbors the McDonalds came over and hung outside with us

     

    July 23 – I took the boys to the park so Papa and dada could talk to Nana’s doctors.  I know Nana would have loved these photos of her boys.

     

    July 26 – We all went to the park this time to get away from everything for just a moment.

     

    July 27 – Xander came over and the boys were jumping on the futon.  Monkey see, monkey do.  It was a good break of levity as Nana was very sick at this point.

     

    July 31 – I took the boys to Jungle Joe’s so Papa and dada could be with Nana at the hospital.  I was hoping the boys would have fun and be oblivious to the serious situation we were all facing with our broken hearts.

     

    August 6 – There are only a couple pictures from Nana’s service.  Trying to find moments of happiness with all of the love and support family and friends have provided.  If anyone else has pictures, please share them with us.

  • Happy 2 Day

    I’m working on compiling everything from the past couple months into some monster posts.  Evan and I share the same sentiment about it all…

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    Some days are a little rougher than others.  Some days little boys like to wake up at 6:15 am and only take a 1 hour nap.  Some days will be pretty rough when little boys are too busy go-go-going instead of resting.  It’s probably part being a 2-year old, part growing pains, part not feeling great, and part not sleeping much that gave us a little cranky boy today.  He’s been a little more on the cranky side ever since he turned 2.  But I think that just comes with the age.

    Speaking of 2, today Evan is 2 years + 2 months + 2 days old!

    Sorry for being so far behind.  We are working on it.  Oftentimes it is difficult to stomach sitting in front of a computer after sitting at one all day at work.  Slowly we’ll get there.  Thanks for your patience.

    Here is Evan acting like he is 2 2 2!

  • Norwood 2 year anniversary

    The Norwood.  The first in a series of 3 surgeries for single ventricle kids, it is the most dangerous and complicated.  Often it occurs within days of new life and it catapults you firmly into the world of complex cardiac heart defects.  Never before will a body be so pure or untouched pre-Norwood.  After, it is like driving up a mountain wearing a blindfold – never knowing what is ahead or where exactly to turn but always very much aware of being constantly surrounded by the fear of death.  I would never wish this moment of time on anyone.

    Evan’s Norwood hospital stay lasted 6 weeks (technically I suppose it was 5 weeks considering they waited until he was 1 week old to operate).  I make a concerted  effort to kiss his scars and rub his chest in the hopes that he will grow up not ashamed or uncomfortable with his appearance.  But in that week I did soak up that time that I knew would be precious with my unadulterated baby before his body would become a collector of scars.  Evan came through the Norwood in complete heart block necessitating a pacemaker, survived with no ill lasting effects from his stroke, and it  was over a year before we realized he lost his thymus in the process.  I am so, so proud of him and all of the other little babies that fight for their lives.

    We’ve come so far!

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    Here are some other pictures of the day.  Hope others lost in the Norwood fog can see that it can, truly, get better.

  • Happy 2nd Birthday Evan!

    IMG_9909I can’t believe it’s been 2 years.  I think every parent thinks that.  It is crazy how something seems simultaneously soooo long and eye-blinking fast.  We had a birthday party for Evan on Saturday.  It was great weather, great friends, great food… you couldn’t have asked for anything better.  We didn’t get too many photos taken because we were just more focused on enjoying the time and not being stuck behind a camera.

    There’s nothing more that we can say that hasn’t already been said about you, Evy.  You’re an amazing little boy, a joy to be around, and I don’t know how we lucked out so much.  Thank you so much for the abundance of hugs and kisses that have come our way lately.  I know you won’t be so kissy to your parents in the future so we are soaking it up like crazy.  And thank you for taking almost 2 years until you learned the word “no.”  Seriously, he only started telling us “no” like a week ago.  Like I said, we’re lucky. <3

    We got a bunch of balloons for his party and the next day they were all over the ground.  He loved running through them and throwing them.  At the end of the day though, that got pretty boring.  So he decided to spice things up a bit the only way he knows how…
     
    Birthday Balloons from William Wood on Vimeo.

    And this video is about a month old but we neglected to post it on the website, so here you go…
     
    Evan Speaks from William Wood on Vimeo.

    Evan’s 2nd birthday party

    Happy Birthday Evan

  • 3 weeks until we have a 2-year old

    3 weeks until we have a 2-year old

    1-20130521_175726Has it really been since we just got home from surgery since we last posted?  Well, that’s embarrassing.  I guess you can expect to have lots of photos in this update.  We’ve had some pretty rad developments since then.

    First, and most importantly, we had a follow-up appointment with the cardiologist and she said everything was looking great.  In fact, she thought his heart function had  improved a little bit.  She is still keeping him on all of his meds.  Being on meds is a double-edged sword… you appreciate their helpfulness but you can have side-effects.  I wonder if some of Evan’s continuing feeding issues aren’t the result of some drug side effects.  Can’t wait for the day we are drug free.1-20130612_104721

    Second, his g-tube site was looking a little sketchy for a bit but now I think it has settled nicely.  We were to keep it in place for 2 weeks and then it can get turned and submerged yadda yadda.  But Cincy suggested to just keep it still and don’t turn it at all.  I was, and still am, concerned that the interior components will heal to his stomach lining by not moving it.  Don’t you have to turn earrings when you get your ears pierced?  I know, completely different.  So we entrust those who really know what they are talking about and things have been going well.

    Third, we had a follow-up with the dentist and Evan behaved so brilliantly.  Adults could be schooled by him.  There doesn’t appear to be any new damage to his teeth so that is a great thing.  They confirmed his molars were coming in.  Yippee.

    1-IMG_9765_2audEating is always a challenge.  We met with the dietitian and she changed his plan so he is milk-fed only 4 times a day instead of 6 times a day, so that helps.  He still gets the vast majority of his nutrition from formula.  He  will consistently eat Stage 1 or 2 food, so that is much better than nothing.  He doesn’t seem to be too picky as far as flavor goes – it’s all about the texture for him.  We are routinely eating food so we incorporated that into his daily calorie intake.  We are partly-food dependent!  So that is very cool.

    Evan is speaking more!  During his cardio appt he was having an Echo done and was watching Dora.  He watches Dora at Nana’s and Dora asked “how do we know where to go” and Evan said Mah!  I thought it was for mom.  Then Dora said, “That’s right… Map!”  He said Map!  Then she asked “where can i look for something” and as clear as day he said Backpack.  This stinker can say a word like backpack?!?  Now we say Map and Backpack quite frequently (no Dora tho).  He tries saying lots of stuff and mostly he just gets the correct # of syllables but it’s something!  Just right now be said ba-ba when he heard bubbles.  He makes a number of animal sounds thanks to Ms. Cathleen.  Instead of signing dog he makes a whimpery bark.  For monkey he both signs and makes a ahh-ahh-ahh monkey sound.1-IMG_9469

    The most spectacular thing he has said happened the other day.  I was wearing a “Boston Strong” t-shirt and was holding Ev.  He pointed to the O on my shirt and said Oh!  Completely unprompted.  It was awesome.  I asked him what letter made a ta sound and he pointed to the T.  Heh.  This kid.  What stroke???

    He is still a very happy, kind, obedient boy.  And I can’t believe we are already planing his 2nd birthday party!  It is a Peep and the Big Wide World theme… although if his birthday was a little later it would be a Dora theme.  Maybe he can be Dora for Halloween.  Eh, he’d rather be Map or Backpack.

     

    May 21 – A day at the park

    May 25 – Bouncing and Gardening

    June 1 – Happy 1st Birthday Miles

    June 7 – Cousins!

    June 9 – Donuts and Dogs

    June 9 – Dada and Dreams

    June 9 – Chalk

    June 11 – Dentist

    June 12 – Cardiologist

    June 15 – Doggie kisses

    June 20 – Bikes and Balls

    June 22 & 23 – Great Wolf Lodge

    June 23 – Sprinkler Fun

    May & June – Eating and Therapy

    May & June – Playing outside

    May & June – This and That

    June – For Dada

     

  • Home!

    Home!

    Fully loaded and on our way outEvan did so well with surgery that we were released on Wednesday morning!  I am so proud of him and how he has handled himself with everything that he has been through.  He still has a smile on his face and is still a sweet little boy.  He has absolutely the best  personality, disposition, spirit, outlook…. whatever you want to call it… we could not have asked for a better kid.  Recently we started playing a game where he says “mama” and I ask “who’s your mama” and he points to me.  I say exaggeratedly “me?!? I’m your mama?!?” and he says “uh-huh!” and I say “oh thank you!” and kiss him on the cheek.  I know it sounds dumb but we play it over and over and over and honestly I am just so so happy to be Evan’s mom.  I am so thankful his spirit picked us for his parents.  How we deserved him, pfft I don’t know, but I’ll take the blessing we got!

    His new site his  healing nicely.  We were given instructions to not let it move for 2 weeks so we taped everything down.  It does present some challenges when we feed at night or in the car.  Because everything is taped down, it’s essentially like he doesn’t have an extension so we don’t have much line to play with.  Typically he sits with his onesie unsnapped and no pants on when eating.   I’m happy it’s the summer so we can eat without pants on!

    DSCN0553Wednesday morning a lot of people came in to see Evan.  Well, lots of people came in all the time.  I didn’t think it was possible but I think Cincy has more interruptions than UofM.  Seriously Grand Central Station.  Anyway, someone with electrophysiology came by and talked about Evan’s pacemaker.  He made some comment about Evan having a lengthy P wave.  He was also talking about Evan’s meds and how uncommon it is to be on them and need them to help with the squeeze of his heart (Digoxin) considering that Evan is “lucky” to have a functioning left ventricle.  The left ventricle is supposed to pump blood to the body, so it is stronger and made to function harder.  The right ventricle is only designed to pump to the lungs.  So with single ventricle kiddos, those with functioning left ventricles (HRHS) are considered “luckier” than the ones who have functioning right ventricles (HLHS) because in theory their hearts should last longer.  I think this doc was just surprised to see Evan on these meds considering his left ventricle should be good to go.  He was also surprised that Evan received a pacemaker so young.  It is actually fairly common for l-loop (l-TGA) individuals to require a pacemaker in life but he was surprised it happened right after the Norwood.

    The thing about any of Evan’s EKGs or echos is that they are subjective – what one says is mild another calls moderate.  What one is surprised by another considers it but not heavily.  It’s a lot of interpretation.  So I don’t think much of what he said other than to take note of it.  I trust our cardiologist and her understanding of Evan and trust she will take action when necessary and knows what is best for him.  I do wonder what level of detail we would understand if we were medical people.  Kind of like looking behind the curtain at Oz… what’s really there that we would find interesting but don’t yet understand.  Medical talk is really a different language.

    Wednesday morning he was feeling much betterEvan was released from the Pain Management team as he had required very little extra medication to manage his pain.  I was surprised at this.  Normally he does like his pain meds and tends to need to use them a bit longer but not this time.  He has been easily managed with OTC Tylenol when needed.

    Wound care came by and explained how to care for the PEG.  He has a tiny bit of drainage around his new site but nothing big and nothing we really need to have a dressing on or anything.  It should stop as it heals.  Pulling the tape off the kid was the worst part of everything.  Tape over his belly and tape for the IV on his foot.  That created quite a few tears.

    Due to Evan’s previous history with Psuedomonas infections, especially in the area of his new g-tube, he received doses of Zosyn (thank you Pfizer) prophylacticly once he went in the OR.  Surgery just wanted him to receive at least 1 more dose in the morning and then he would be through.

    GI stopped by on rounds and noted that Evan has worked up to his full-feed volume, tho fed continuously, but was tolerating everything well.  He just needs to work up to bolus feeding instead of continuous but that it could be worked on at home.  They gave the discharge blessing!  All I said was make it happen quick because I have a long drive ahead of me (Dad left Tuesday afternoon to go to Philly for work so it was just Evan and me on the road).  They did their part and we were leaving the parking garage at 12:30.

    Walking while eating.  Tube feeding has its benefits sometimes.Evan did remarkable on the ride home.  He slept for the first couple hours and only got restless near the very end.  It was definitely a good day to be in the car because he was on continuous feeds and being strapped down makes it very easy.  He also still wasn’t 100% so he didn’t feel like being super active anyway.  If you ever know someone who has a kiddo who is continuously fed give them a hug, particularly if they were fed that way as infants and toddlers.  I did it for 1 day and you know you will do whatever it takes for your kids but I can’t imagine it forever.

    After arriving home Evan and I went for a walk to stretch our legs.  We took a break from eating to walk in the grass a bit.  He was pretty pooped so he went to bed early and without issue, just happy to be home.

    Thursday Evan started getting his formula with bolus feeds without issue.  He even ate some pureed food rather eagerly.  We ate outside on the porch because it was so gorgeous out and I thought he would be distracted but he was awesome.  We went on a couple shopping trips and he did great again.  This kid was super blessed with patience.

    Even though we came back from the hospital early I technically could have returned to work.  I had already planned on taking the rest of the week off so I stuck with that.  Getting home early was such a bonus.  I have not had a couple relaxing days off with my son since he was 5 months old – Christmas 2011 – when I had to “use it or lose it” and burn a bunch of vacation at the end of the year.  Otherwise all of my time off is spent here and there at various appointments or, unfortunately, with multiple hospitalizations.  It’s tiring.  But it is so hard to take time off with the constant nagging in the back of my head that I might need it someday.  I want to have fun and breathe deep too. So on Friday we did just that – we went to the zoo!

    Is someone turning 2?  I can't tell.  Enjoying ourselves at the zoo!Remember the part when I said he has a lot of patience?  Ha!  Well I was the mom with the screaming kid in the zoo.  It couldn’t be more obvious that he is turning 2 soon!  So we are getting some tantrums pretty hard core.  After calming down a bit, the rest of the time was fun.  Still not lots of smiles but Evan is a pretty serious kid.  From moment 1 we’ve been told how serious he is and it’s so true.  We rode on the carousel which he was nervous about at first but trusted me enough (or was in awe enough) to go through with it.  He even fed the giraffes.  I loved having a fun day with my son!

     

     

    Last moments in the hospital and recovering at home:

    At the zoo with mama:

  • A picture update

    Here are a bunch of photos to bring everyone up to speed with how things look.  Today Evan is doing well.  He isn’t smiling a ton but he doesn’t appear to be in pain – just kind of tired and chill and doesn’t mind vegging out.  Yesterday Evan got a PEG tube placed, which has an internal and external bumper.  It also always has an extension attached.  So for the next 12 weeks we will have to manage a toddler with a piece of tubing always hanging out of his abdomen… begging to get caught on something or pulled or pried open.  We will need to go shopping for 24 mo onesies as I think that might be the only way we can make it through with some sanity.  I feel bad for people who have to have it even longer!  We will need to come back in 12 weeks and the surgeon will take out the PEG and put in another button like he had before.  And then after that we can change them at home like we did before.

    Here are some photos from 02May that I thought were too cute to not share.  We normally don’t put him in one-piece outfits because we need easy access to his feeding tube port, but I saw these overalls in the closet and they were practically begging to be worn.  I think he knew how cute he looked.  Funny how things change with a surgery!  I think denim overalls will give his tube great protection.

    Here are photos so far from Cincy.

  • Surgery went well – on the road to recovery!

    Thanks to our generous friends Jason and Melissa Oman, we were able to all get a comfortable night’s rest the day before Evan’s 8th surgery.  Their children, Erik and Kennedy, provided much-needed entertainment the night before and were great with Evan.  It’s like Kennedy is a natural big sister.  🙂 I don’t think you have any idea what comfort it brings to not have that point of stress (where to sleep) taken care of and to not have yet another thing on your mind when your child is hospitalized.  I would give this place a 5-star rating. 🙂

    We arrived at the hospital plenty early.  Checking in was no problem.  Sitting in Evan’s room, going over his med history for the millionth time – luckily we have learned to print a summary containing med info, medical summary, medical timeline, food/allergy info, and contact info.  So essentially the nurse starts with, “Is he still taking 1/2 a baby aspirin a day?”  And then we say yes, whip out this sheet, hand it over, and pretty much get no more questions from the nurse as she looks everything over.  I suggest doing something similar if you have a complicated medical history too; it saves a bit of sanity.  Plus, meds are always wrong with every admission and it helps keep yourself straight when trying to talk to the many nurses and doctors that come in with incorrect information.

    The nurse asked if we had any questions for the doctor and we had 1.  When the g-tube is placed, it pulls your stomach up and it becomes attached to the inner wall of the abdominal muscles (which is why it is vitally important to always keep a tube in the stoma the first 3 months of placement).  Our question was whether they were going to detach his stomach from his abdomen so his stomach isn’t tented at his old site and new site too.  The surgeon, Dr. Jason Frischer, came in and talked to us about it.  He said it will still be tented a bit there.  He then looked over Evan’s tummy and had his thinking face on; you could tell he was mulling over details.  He talked about doing the surgery one way, then left and came back after a bit.  He must have talked to someone else or looked something up because he came back with a different approach to the surgery.  Initially, he was going to give Evan a lengthy incision at his old site (essentially from the end of his cardiac scar all the way to his belly button – talk about a zipper!)  But he instead said he was going to try to put a camera scope in through his belly button and look at his stomach and at the site and check everything out.  If all looked like he thought, he would have another scope placed down his esophagus and into his stomach to not only look at the old site but also to help aid in putting the new button in so they can get it in exactly the location they want while avoiding any obstacles or any areas that they didn’t want to operate in.  Essentially they would have the needle on the outside in the place where they want to put the button, puncture through the skin, fat, and muscles, and be able to watch it being placed in the tummy and make sure everything was perfect.  With this approach, the incision for his old site would be much smaller, only an inch or so, and this not only makes a smaller scar but also makes a smaller area that needs to heal and lessens the chance for infection.

    Evan also had to meet with electrophysiology.  They came and changed the settings on his pacemaker.  Instead of being DDD they changed him to DOO for the surgery.  The idea is that if a patient is intrinsically paced (meaning their heart senses when a beat should occur and then the pacemaker sends the signal to get the heart to contract) there is a potential for interference from surgical tools, like cauterizing instruments.  These types of instruments create “noise” and it can trick the pacemaker into thinking a signal was sent to the heart to get it to contract when a signal was never sent – it was just noise.  So by changing the setting, they set a heart rate and make the pacemaker send a contraction signal to his heart whether his heart asked for it or not.  After surgery they will change the setting back so his heart will beat to his own rhythm   Pediatric anesthesiology also stopped by to go over his past issues and complications.  It is nice to say that complications he has had (stroke, seizures, adverse reactions, infections) have happened a while ago and we have learned from them.  It is also nice that he has had a procedure with anesthesia since the infection (re-implantation of the pacemaker) and had zero complications because of it.

    We got to be with Evan as he was in the transfer room to the OR.  While waiting the nurse gave him a little mask to play with so when it came time to give him some funny gas he was comfortable with it.  He got sleepy, heavy eyes, started getting floppity, and laid down to sleep and he was out.  Completely smooth transition.  He did so awesome.  Dad and I went to get something to eat right away because it would be the longest time until they updated us.

    The waiting room has some cool features.  You do need to check in and check out with the desk when you are in the area, something I thought was handled better than at UofM. Your child has a random number associated with them and they have this board that will post all of the patient’s numbers and what their status is – in the OR or in recovery or whatever.  Kind of like looking at flight information.  So I thought that was nice.  And when they had an update for you they would announce it over a loud speaker.  When the surgery is over, they called you back to a consultation room, even if just for a minute, to talk with the surgeon in private and tell you the details.  Then when then Evan was in the recovery room and ready for visitors they called us back and we got to be with him as he woke up from sedation.  Once our room was cleaned and ready we moved up to 6A central, which is the step-down cardiac floor (ie general cardiac floor).  We hope to be one of the easiest rooms on the floor!

    Right now he is just chill and relaxing and resting by watching some SpongeBob.  Unfortunately the TV isn’t connected to the internet so we won’t have any Peep unless Dad can nerd rig something up.  I’ve already heard about wrong HDMI cables and it’s already too over my head.  But if there is any nerd that can do it for his boy, it’s his Dadda.

    More pics and updates later.  A big thank you to everyone for their words of encouragement, thoughts, and prayers for Evan and us today.  It was Evan’s 8th surgery and it never gets easier.  Especially because we know all too well how “simple” procedures can become complicated in literally a heartbeat.  We’re infinitely grateful that this g-tube surgery went better than the last one.  So thank you very much for your continued support!

  • Picky eater?

    Picky eater?

    Since figuring out Evan is allergic to cow’s milk and switching his formula, he has done remarkably well.  He hasn’t had any issues with puking and his oral motor skills have improved greatly in just a month.  He has even been asking for food and seems incredibly interested.  This past week was a bit of a setback.  Not sure just why, but he doesn’t really want to eat anymore.  He is incredibly whiny about everything, but regarding food he is back to covering his mouth whenever it is offered.  Sometimes he eats well but most of the time he takes issue with it.  I’m sure it is all part of the process but it does make us think a little bit – considering he doesn’t have the typical symptoms when ill or infected – it does make us take note. Maybe he is teething?  Maybe he is just testing  us the way toddlers do?

    Today for lunch, he didn’t want anything to do with the “crunchy” part of his meal – puffs.  He really didn’t want any of his puree either but I got him to eat about 3oz by offering to play with his puffs as a reward.  Here he is looking incredibly serious and pitiful.

    Trying one reluctant bite for mama

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    It got all sticky and he wanted to give it back to me

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    Then he decided to just play with it instead

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    In the bowl, out the bowl, in the bowl, out the bowl…

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    An easy reward for a reluctant eater

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    Dump

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    The socks tell the truth

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    Can you hear him say “ba ba ba ba”

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    Over  it

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  • A catch-up post in pictures

    A catch-up post in pictures

    _MG_9254Since explaining the past month+ in words would be way too boring, I decided to do an update in pictures.  Many of the photos have captions so the details should be filled in.  Instead of having one giant gallery, I separated out the larger photo sessions from the “everything else” gallery.  Enjoy looking around!

     

    Jan 6 – Evan being naughty and reading

    Jan 8 – Kat visit

    Jan 16, 28, Feb 7, Feb 11 – Evan at therapy

    Jan 21 – Heart photos for Mott

    Jan 30 – Fun with balloons

    Feb 9 – Sweet baby photoshoot

    And everything else: Evan tried eggnog, group get-together, being silly, gross button, and playing outside