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  • U of M appointments

    U of M appointments

    Last Thursday we had our all-day appointment at U of M.  We weren’t sure what to expect but hoped to come away with a better understanding of the process we are going through and the facility that will become our second home.  It didn’t take too long to get there – about 1.5 hours – but I can easily see how construction, traffic, or an accident could significantly change that timeframe.  I-94 is not fun or commuter friendly.

    The hospital was easy enough to find, and you have to pay for parking which I think stinks considering we’ll be spending how much money for services there??  I mean it is cheap (if you don’t lose your ticket…)  Unfortunately we will not be in the new women and children’s hospital, but we should be over there for his other surgeries.  Too bad, because it looks and sounds lovely.  The old hospital… well… let’s just say the conditions don’t exactly match the caliber of care provided there.

    8:00 am – Cardiologist appointment

    Our first appointment was to receive our second echocardiogram at the Pediatric Cardiology center in Mott Children’s Hospital.  We got to meet with Kathy, one of the nurses and the one who would help guide us through our day.  I was especially looking forward to this appointment as previously there was a slight discrepancy in what his condition might actually be, and this was an opportunity to have another expert provide their opinion.  The tech was very thorough, albeit a bit fidgity and fussy at times, probably due to a lack of angle cooperation by baby tricky.  We met with Dr. Russell who confirmed the diagnosis of Dr. Fountain-Dommer.  He actually gave her some kudos and spoke very well of her for catching this different condition and not going along with the suspected condition of HLHS.  We asked him to point out some structures on the echo and he happily answered all of our questions.

    What we learned:

    • UofM sees about 50-60 single-ventricle cases a year, so about 1 a week.  About 30 are HLHS.  There are a decent amount of TA cases, TA/l-TGA is still rarely seen.
    • The first surgery, the Norwood procedure, will happen within the first week of life
    • If we need to have any specialized equipment at home, it might be a feeding pump.  Hopefully he will pick up feeding, but if needed he will continue to be tube fed.  They will teach us CPR and how to insert his tube before we are discharged.
    • At minimum, Evan will be on baby aspirin and diuretics – hopefully that will be it!

     

    9:30 – OB/GYN appointment

    We shuffled off to the Taubmann center for our next appointment.  I had no idea really what this appointment was for, other than to load my information into the database.  We did come prepared with questions, particularly because we felt that these were the individuals who would be able to give us the best birthing information.  We met with Dr. Mozurkewich and again she answered all of our questions.  We also talked with a nurse who gave us information on the 3rd trimester as well as a pretty nice birthing book.  most of our time in this appointment was spent waiting, but that was ok because we could go over the info received at the cardio appointment.

    What we learned:

    • Cesarian births are not encouraged, and there is a strong leaning toward natural childbirth (I use natural to mean vaginal).  The thinking is that 1) he is still connected to me until they cut the cord so he should be ok 2) the compression of giving birth helps to free fluids from the lungs and promote circulation.  Obviously if a c-section is needed it is done, but they encourage one to try.
    • Whether we induce or not depends on personal preferences and the opinions of the cardiology group.  They do not see harm in waiting for nature to take its course.  First babies usually take a little while, so even the drive from Kzoo does not make  them lean one way or another.
    • Whomever is on call will be delivering, so we might meet the particular doctor before hand or maybe just that day
    • I  will deliver in an operating room (more detail about that later)
    • Episiotomies are not commonly performed
    • If I want to have a medicine-free birth, that’s ok.  They will probably add an IV port just in case
    • With a natural birth, as many people as I want (realistically) can be in the room.  With a c-section, only Will would be in the room with me
    • I’m glad we brought a backpack to hold all of our paperwork!

     

    11:00 – Social Worker appointment

    We were supposed to meet with our surgeon next, but since we were  meeting her between surgeries, we needed to be a bit flexible with our time.  We went back to the Pediatric Cardiology center, paged Kathy the nurse, and she got a hold of Barb, a social worker with the department of pediatric cardiology.  She has worked there for 22 years and holds a wealth of information

    What we learned:

    • If we want to have him baptized, blessed, or christened before surgery we can do so.  The hospital chaplains can provide the services or we can have our own person come in.  Just thinking of it makes me cry but something we will want to do.
    • We will deliver in the high-risk  side of the Woman’s East birthing center.  We will do the great deal of our labor in the room, and when the time  comes to get the show on the road, I will be wheeled down the hall (~100 ft or so?) to an operating room.  It doesn’t really look like an operating room like you see on TV, but it is more important that adjacent to the room there is a newborn crash room.  It holds every kind of equipment they might need in case  something goes wrong.  He will be whisked away into there after birth and if he’s pink and breathing ok, they will bring him back to be with us  for a few minutes.  Hopefully this is the case because it is extraordinarily important to me to get pictures of him with no scar and not hooked up to anything.  Evan will have tubes and wires for the next 4-5 weeks, so images of him looking like every other normal baby will be  awesome.
    • He will spend the next week-ish (until his surgery) in the NICU.  Hopefully he will be a big ole fat turkey baby and will look out of place next to those skinny babies.  We pray that his breathing will be ok and he won’t need to be on a ventilator, because if he is, then we won’t be able to hold him.  And I don’t know about you but not being able to hold your  new baby is not something I am prepared to deal with.
    • There are 40 NICU beds (10 beds in 4 rooms) and only 2 people can be bedside at a time.  Anyone can visit but they MUST be healthy.
    • While in the NICU, we can bring something that smells like us but most comforting to him would be recordings of our voices, like if we read books to him.  That is the sense he is most used to at that point.
    • Surgery will be on the 5th floor and afterward he will stay in the cardiac NICU which only has 15 beds but is specifically monitored by cardiologists.  He’ll be there 1-2 weeks I am thinking.  100% of babies are on ventilators after surgery, so we will only be able to touch his little hands and such.  This might not be a bad thing because I am not sure I would want to hold him because he will be so delicate.  Sometimes the chest is left open and there are quite a few tubes to drain fluid.  Here is an image of a Facebook friend’s little baby after this surgery and we would anticipate Evan to look pretty similar.  Warning – it is a little tough to look at.  And double warning – this is the sweet little baby that passed away and I mentioned in a previous post, so  don’t read the blog if you don’t want to cry.
    • Once he is off the vent and tubes start to come out, he can transition back to the NICU or bypass that entirely and go to the general care recovery rooms.  While in these rooms, we’ll be able to do real parent things like change diapers and feed him.  Gasp!  He will have been tube fed up to this point and then it is on to bottles and then breastfeeding.  Bottles are easier on weaker babies, so they like to start with those.  He will be staying in the room and there is a larger bed for parents to stay in too.  They encourage parents to stay in the room by switching on and off.  Here we will learn CPR, how to put in his feeding tube, and how to take care of his wounds.  We’ll be there for about 2 weeks and can then go home.   Yay!
    • He will have his “little boy” procedure after his surgery, while in the general care room.  Like he doesn’t have enough problems already, right?  Poor fella…
    • They have pumping rooms and freezer storage system to keep track of everything so we can make sure Evan gets the most nutrition, even if he gets it via tube
    • We may be eligible for Children’s Special Healthcare Services or 30-day Medicaid services as well
    • Mott is billed under the U of M health system

     

    11:45 – Meeting with the surgeon

    This occurred during our conversation with Barb as the doctor became available.  Her name is Dr. Jennifer Hirsch and she looks way young (we guestimate she should be ~42ish but easily looks 10 yrs younger), is very beautiful (her official doctor pic does not do her justice), very smart (she went to Harvard people), and was extremely kind and open to talk to.  She was the first person at U of M to ask if our son had a name and  referred to him as Evan when talking about him.  Evan will die without any surgical intervention so it was surreal to meet the person who is going to save his life.  We cried after she left.  It is a bit overwhelming.

    Things we learned:

    • 75% of babies will live to have the  2nd surgery at 4-6 months.  Not that this was new info, but it confirmed some of the numbers we had read about online.
    • The timing of the 2nd surgery will depend on how fast he is growing.  In the 1st surgery, they will put a BT shunt to reduce bloodflow to his lungs (otherwise too much would go there and not enough would go to the body).  They have to guesstimate the shunt size, and essentially when he outgrows this is when he has the 2nd surgery.  If born on July 17, that would give a November-January timeframe.  I’m not  excited about it being holiday season and illness season to have open-heart surgery.  It also makes it trickier to know when to take time off of work, but we’ll just have to play it by ear.
    • For the 2nd surgery, they detach the superior vena cava and attach it passively to the pulmonary artery (this is the big vein coming from the head/arm/upper body region).  They do this one first (instead of the inferior vena cava which is the big vein returning from the lower body) because babies are all head and it will provide the most relief for the heart.  Once kids become mobile and start to use their lower bodies more (18-36 months old) then they have the 3rd surgery to attach the body vein passively to the pulmonary arteries.
    • Evan will be cyanotic until the 3rd surgery (blood oxygen level below 90%) but will look like kids when they get out of the bath – a little blue to the lips and fingertips.
    • She gave us her email and encouraged us to send her any questions or comments we might have

     

    After this we hauled ass to go get something to eat.  It’s like they didn’t schedule a time for this or something… very weird…

     

    1:30 – Genetic Counseling appointment

    We had to have this appointment even though we received genetic counseling at Bronson.  It’s just part of the packaged deal.  This was at the Perinatal Assessment Center also in Mott.  It was nice to be able to talk to someone again if we did have questions.  They offered an amnio again and we declined.  Given that no other health issues have come up on ultrasounds we feel the likelihood of him having any genetic condition to be low.

     

    2:30 – Ultrasound appointment

    Yay more pictures of baby boy!  The tech was lovely and from Kzoo.  She said everything was looking good except he was being a little uncooperative and tricky.  Afterward, we met with Dr. Treadwell and she confirmed that she did not have any concerns for any other conditions to be present.  A nurse, Liz, gave us a tour after the US and showed us the birthing areas and NICU on the 4th floor.  It was very nice of her to take the time to help us get a sense of things, although I think we will want a more general tour too in the future.

    What we learned:

    • Evan weighs about 3 lbs@ 28 weeks, putting him in the 59th percentile.  Definitely thought he would be bigger but I think he will have plenty of time to get huuuge.
    • Evan is very limber.  He was sitting breech, I think footlong breech, because he was holding one foot right up to his face.  I’m not sure where the other one was?

     

    We are going to go back June 10th for another cardio, OB, and ultrasound appointment.  Until then, we have our regular appointment at Bronson in a couple weeks.  We will probably go to U of M 1 more time after that prior to delivery, but otherwise we’ll just do some co-care with Bronson.

     

    Here is a profile.  I guess that is some brain development, so that looks cool.  The smudge by his face is a foot I think.

     

    This is the foot that kept getting in the way!

     

    They tried to do a 3-D image but of course it  looks all crazy.  I only share because I love those toes!   The other smudge by his face must be an arm or something.

     

  • Appointments, Appointments, Appointments…

    Appointments, Appointments, Appointments…

    I am so very thankful that our medical professionals caught this when they did. I feel a sense of calm that we have the opportunity to be prepared for what is going to come. I have been doing a lot of reading and I have seen many stories where the family had no idea, even with the current technologies, that their child was suffering from a heart defect. After seeing an ultrasound of a normal heart and the one of Evan’s, I don’t know how this is possible, the differences are dramatic, but apparently it happens. A family takes their baby home with no idea that anything is wrong, the baby starts to exhibit symptoms like feeding problems, blue lips, lethargic, etc. What a terrible thing to go through. Not having all this worry would be nice, but I’ll take the worry gladly with the ability to plan.


    We’ve had about 4 ultrasounds, a fetal echocardiogram, appointments with doctor’s, cardiologists, high-risk OB’s, etc. The biggest appointment yet is coming up in a couple weeks. We’re meeting with the doctor’s at the University of Michigan for the first time. This is more than likely where Sarah will give birth and where Evan will have all of his surgeries. I am really looking forward to hearing what they have to say and to see the facility. They are the #4 hospital in the US for pediatric heart care so I know we will be in good hands. It’s going to be a loooong day though. 830AM until 4PM with back to back appointments. Cardiologist, pediatrician, genetic counselor, pediatric cardiothoracic surgeon, high risk OB, ultrasound…. It’s going to be a great day, honest. I think we both need someone to help put our minds at ease about this whole thing and I think they are just the people to do it. Don’t get me wrong, the people at Bronson hospital have been great, but they have not seen nearly as many of these things as U of M. Our cardiologist at Bronson has only ever had one other patient with exactly what Evan has (and he’s doing great and has completed all his surgeries). I really want to hear it from the experts in the field that see these all the time.

    Well, I should be getting to bed….Daddy boot camp in the morning. I can’t imagine that I am going to learn much, but that’s ok. 🙂

  • Normal Heart vs. Evan’s Heart

    Normal Heart vs. Evan’s Heart

    I created a new page to describe the differences between a normal heart and one like Evan’s… you can see it under the menu item Evan’s Condition or by clicking here.

     

  • Baby Tricky

    When my sister was pregnant with her son, she nicknamed him Baby Tricky because anytime one went to touch her belly, he would stop moving completely.  Tricky indeed.  Well, Baby Tricky is strong in Evan too.  Our first ultrasound (the “normal” one) we were delighted to be able to learn he is a he.  During the following ultrasound (the let’s-check-on-this-maybe-it-was-an-angle-issue one), the tech tried to confirm that we were having a little boy.  Of course, Baby Tricky was tired of all the foolery looking at him and discretely tucked his little legs under his bottom and wouldn’t let anyone see anything.  Ok fine.  Our third ultrasound (the welcome-to-the-high-risk-club one) the tech changed wands (?) and took 4D ultrasound images of Baby Tricky.  We never had anyone offer to do so before nor anticipated getting one ever (personally I think they can kinda look crazy but hey it’s worth a shot.)  Baby T. was so over everything by now that he literally had his arms in front of his face, forming an X.  Like we were paparazzi and were invading his private space.  He had never done that before, so it was odd to see him in that type of position.  Needless to say we don’t have a proud 4D ultrasound pic of our little guy, and maybe he is just waiting to surprise us.

     Whatever the case may be, Baby Tricky, I hope we can get some good cooperation tomorrow.  We have our first Fetal Echocardiogram appointment, and we are under the assumption that we’ll be able to learn a lot more diagnostically about Evan’s heart and how well it has otherwise formed and functions.  Please be a brave little boy and let us all take a look at your tiny heart (I think it’s the size of a grape).  We all just want to make sure we are doing the right things for you, and we’ll leave you to your privacy when we are all done (by privacy I mean you can return to playing soccer with my colon, so long as I don’t squish you with my pants).

     I’ll also see if we can’t get take-home pictures for us to have so we can share with everyone.  I know for Will and I, we didn’t fully understand what things are supposed to look like until we could see the comparison of Evan’s heart to that of a fully-developed one.  Here’s to hoping for some good news!!