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Back in General Care!!!

 

It’s a very surreal feeling, being back in general care. We were here once before for a very short time. We thought then that we were on our way home, that was two weeks ago. Hopefully this time will be different. It feels different. All that stands in our way is one more trip to the OR to remove the Broviac catheter from his chest (scheduled for Wednesday morning), his little boy surgery, to continue doing well with feeding, and all the normal stuff that goes with discharging a baby. We’re being told Friday. Evan will go home on 4 medications. Lasix for fluid retention, captopril for heart function, phenobarbital to suppress any more seizures (this one we will only have for a month), and baby aspirin which he’ll take forever to help prevent clots. I’m not sure how long the Lasix will last. The captopril will last until the next surgery at the very least.

As strange as this may sound to most of you, it will be with very mixed emotions that we leave this place. The biggest thing is knowing what to do with and how to take care of Evan if something happens. Not having the safety net of doctors and nurses right there is a scary feeling. The hospital is doing a great job of preparing us and providing us with resources above and beyond our doctors in Kalamazoo. Additionally, over the past 40+ days and nights we have met many great people, both families and staff.  Even though we have not grown really close to any one person it feels, at least to me, like we’re some kind of big family. Maybe family is too strong of a word but  we’re all here for similar reasons and we all have the same goal, to get these kids healthy enough to go home with their families where they belong. Sarah and I spend much of the day on our computers looking at various things on the internet, one of these things is blogs of other families who have been in our position already or are walking this winding road with us. Sometimes this can be very difficult since not all stories are happy ones, but other times it is very uplifting and therapeutic to see how well kids do after having these surgeries. One such case is Aly Jean. Aly was born in June of 2009 and has had all three of the surgeries that Evan must have. Her last surgery, the Fontan, was performed here in Ann Arbor (as were all of her surgeries) in March 2011, she was in the hospital for a mere 8 days after that surgery and is now thriving like any two year old. Among a group of kids playing, you would never pick Aly out as being any different. She’s an inspiration to us and I can only hope that Evan does as well as this amazing little girl. You can follow along with Aly here.

There are several other families here that now hold a special place in our hearts as well. The Butcher’s are a family we met through Aly’s website and happen to be here at Mott right now as well. Their daughter Brittany (13 years old) had a heart transplant in late 2008 and her body is now rejecting it. For the past several days she’s been sedated and paralyzed to let her body recover stress free. She’s on about 20 medications, a ventilator, and her blood is being removed, ‘washed,’ and put back in her body. This is called plasmapheresis and essentially strips her immune system to zero in order to stop the body from attacking the heart. Mia Wilson is another miracle in the making. Her and her family (parents and 3 sisters from Akron, Ohio) have been here for nearly 6 months and unfortunately little Mia still has a long way to go. Before she was born her parents were told that she wasn’t going to make it, but 4 days after birth she was still holding her own. She was flown to Mott Children’s hospital where the amazing staff here has helped with her heart problems, a stroke, bouts with severe hypoglycemia, hyperbilirubin, hepatic insufficiency and multiple stomach and bowel problems. Mia’s website is http://www.miasbigheart.com/ and I highly recommend watching the 13 minute video. Please keep these and all CHD families in your thoughts and prayers. Congenital heart defects are the #1 cause of death among all birth related defects. Nearly twice as many deaths occur from CHD than all childhood cancers combined.

A group called Metals4Mettle came by today and gave Evan a medal from the Detroit Marathon. They had dozens to choose from but I chose this one because it’s close to home and looks very cool. These metals are donated by finishers of marathons all over the world and given to children and adults that are “fighting debilitating illness who might not be able to run a race, but are in a race of their own just to continue to live their life.”

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15 responses to “Back in General Care!!!”

  1. Mom Avatar
    Mom

    Love the picture with the metal. He looks so happy. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Love u little bear.

  2. Wendy Wilson Avatar

    I for one definitely do not think family is too strong of a word, but then again I’ve spent over 6 months of my life with everyone here fighting for Mia, Evan, Brittney and all our other warriors!

  3. Jenny Avatar

    First of all, that is some SERIOUS cuteness with that big smile and his medal. ADORABLE!! 🙂 I was hoping that no update for a couple days meant you were too busy on the floor- that’s great news. I totally get your mixed feelings about leaving. I remember counting down the seconds until discharge and then as soon as they said we were on our own, being absolutely terrified. It will be scary and overwhelming for the first couple days at home, but you will get into your own family rhythm and routine quickly. I’m so excited for you guys that Friday could be “D” day! 🙂 🙂
    I’m so glad that Aly gives you hope! I am so proud of her and LOVE that she can be an inspiration and give families hope.I still remember the first little girl whose blog I found when we found out about Aly’s heart and she really showed us the light at the end of the tunnel, as she is about a year and a half older. Nothing compares to how great that feels to be able to look at someone healthy and happy with a special heart and know that there is so much hope that can be your child too.
    Keeping Brittany, Mia and of course, Evan in our thoughts and prayers!!

  4. Jenny Avatar

    Oh, and one more thing, family is definitely not too strong a word- having a child with a special heart changes your entire life- and not everyone understands that. It’s impossible to explain to someone who hasn’t been in those shoes how it really feels. I have bonded with so many other heart families in ways that I haven’t bonded with some of my closest friends or my own family. We just “get” each other. 🙂

  5. jennifer Avatar
    jennifer

    So happy to hear cant wait to see him go home with you guys ! If you need anything let us know > Thanks for searing the other families s story too it is good to know it is not just you in this .

  6. Grandma Nancee Avatar
    Grandma Nancee

    So very well written. You are a good Dad Will. Wednesday is going to be good. I hope home is in sight for Labor Day Weekend. You can call me and I will take vacation and help you out. Love…

  7. GG Jo Avatar
    GG Jo

    He looks so proud to be wearing that medal.What an angel he is!.And having beautiful and loving parents..So many people caring and praying for him.He has the love of us all.

  8. GG Jo Avatar
    GG Jo

    Love the medal. He has certainly earned it. What beautiful parents he has with loving and caring family and friends. Everyone loves, thinks and prays for you.

  9. Jenn Elenbaas Avatar
    Jenn Elenbaas

    YAY! Really pulling for all of you to be home this weekend. That medal is super cool.

  10. Melissa Avatar
    Melissa

    I LOVE the big smile!!!! So sweet! I have been reading about little Evan since right after he was born, I think I found him from Mia’s blog.
    So I have been having this unbelievable pull from some where to mention something to you. I keep ignoring it and yet something keeps telling me to mention it. You are going to think sound like a nut. Honestly I feel like a nut even mentioning it but can’t ignore the “pull” any longer. So know that I only mention this because I feel like I “need” to but not as a critisism what so ever.
    After saying all that….. I just want to say to really check into the complications of having Evan’s “boy part” surgery done. In the last year I have “known” of two heart babies that have died right after having this done. On of the sweet little ones is Joshua and this is his story http://fierceandfiesty.blogspot.com/

    Please, if you delete this and ignore it know that I will not be at all offended.

    I will continue to pray for Evan and for you all!

    1. William Avatar

      Melissa,

      Thanks for speaking up. Sarah actually starting reading Joshua’s blog the other day so it’s pretty cool that you bring it up. We know there are risks with the circumcision and I was very on the fence about the whole thing but after looking into it and talking with friends that had bad experiences with their uncircumcised boys I feel very comfortable in the decision we made. With Evan’s condition we’ll need to be more cautious with everything that we do with him and we’ll be watching him like a hawk.

    2. Melissa Avatar
      Melissa

      Thank you so much for reading it how I intended it and not getting upset. Take care and God Bless!

  11. Brandi Gandy Avatar

    This is fantastic news! When you were not posting I was so hoping that was the case!

    Despite being incredibly ready to go home, I was also beyond nervous! But, there was nothing like bringing my sweet little baby to her home. The trip home from Houston was like a National Lampoons movie, but once we were here it was just amazing!

    The medal thing is just too neat! The more I am in this heart world, the more touched I am by all the different things being done for kiddos. And, I think family is a perfect word. I have become very close to multiple heart families. We may never meet, but the bond, love and care is very very real.

    So happy for you!

    Sincerely,
    Brandi

  12. Jan Kimberlain Avatar
    Jan Kimberlain

    Love the pics and the medal. Bill, I really like the one of you and Evan in the grass. I’m with so many other’s, I don’t think “family” is too strong a word. It’s your “heart family”, they have been through the same journey as you and your family will go through, they have a connection to you that many will never totally understand. Huge prayers that you guys will be able to take Even home on Friday.

  13. Brittany Avatar
    Brittany

    What amazing people you guys have had the oppurtunity to meet and stories you have to share. I hope that everything is going as expected and you guys can make it back to Kalamazoo tomorrow. Keep up the good work Evan!

    Evan is so cute with his little medal, it brought tears to my eyes 🙂

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